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Monday, 17 February 2014

A Step In The Right Direction

Recently, I went through a bit of a "mid-life" crisis. The crisis was that I didn't know what I wanted to do as a career or even what I was going to do with my life. No warning, just*BAM* complete freak-out. I suddenly thought to myself, "Is this path, that I was going to take, really what I want to do with my life? Do I want to go down this route?" And I knew deep down that the answer was "no."

Now a few of you may be holding confused expressions on your face and going "Why are you calling that a crisis? You still have so much time left to decide all of this!" And yeah, that's true. But the thing that freaked me out so much was that I was always one of the people who had a plan and something to work towards. I always had a rough outline of what job I wanted to have, where I wanted to live and how my life would pan out, that it terrified me to be so...un-prepared? Confused? I don't even know.

So now I'm stuck in the position of what the hell am I going to do with my life? Let me tell you one thing, it's difficult when you have a problem and you try to give yourself advice. Somehow it doesn't really have much of an effect. But nonetheless, I made myself calm down, meditated for a few minutes and I did this:

I wrote down the things that I loved.

Not so much materialistic things like ice-cream, new notebooks or How I Met Your Mother, but things like what I enjoyed doing and seeing in the world. It was things like;
Seeing people smile
Making people laugh
Spreading joy
Making people feel better/Being the sunshine to others
Looking and studying beautiful things I come across
Learning about new things
Being Creative
Talking to people
Inspiration/Inspiring Others + Helping others
etc, etc....
Side note: While I was writing the list, I really wanted to put a smiley face next to everything! Haha
When you know what you love, it helps you focus on it and how happy it makes you. Because when you love something, you'll automatically fight for it and want to keep it in your life, whether you realise or not.

Doing this, first of all really helped me with appreciating all that I had and treasured. But it also helped me get back on track and find a guide to what I wanted to do. It's not quite a yellow brick road, but more of an arrow that says "THIS WAY". All I know is, it's a step in the right direction.

In life, I believe that all of our actions, no matter how small, will lead to something bigger at the end of it. Like a staircase. Each step might not make a whole lot of difference, but at the end after you've taken 20 steps, it makes a huge difference on where you are/how high up you are.

One of my favourite teachers said to me the other day (this is roughly what he said - I can't remember it exactly);
"When you improve by 1% each time, eventually it all adds up to something greater."
To put it into a little bit of perspective, think of it in terms of physical appearance for now.
  • Pulling your hair into a ponytail - 1%
  • Plucking that stray eyebrow hair - 1%
  • Moisturizing cracked lips- 1%
  • Tucking in your shirt - 1%
  • Pulling up your tights - 1%
  • Smiling - 1% (to be honest, it's more like 20% but I'm trying to make a point)
  • Fixing your smudged eyeliner - 1%
Those 7 things individually, only improved yourself by 1% each time. But together, added up to something greater and now you're 7% better than you were before. You're 7% better presented, 7% more attractive and 7% more confident. (After all, confidence can be greatly affected by how you present yourself.) Now when you apply what my teacher told me to life, it makes sense too. We can all take steps to improve ourselves or move forward by 1%. It may not seem like much at all - in fact it hardly seems like anything. But after a while that 1% will lead to 5%, then 20%, then 50%, then 75% and then, hopefully, 100%.

It might take a while for it all to add up, but you need to have a little bit of patience. Remember that there's a reason people say, "All good things come to those who wait."  Even if it takes you a while to even get that 1%, don't worry - life has a funny way of working itself out.
But let me help you with your first 1% of your life. Create this list to help guide you of where you want to be and where you think you belong. It may not solve your whole life, but it's a step in the right direction.
♥ Jess ♥


  1. I really enjoyed this post jess. Made me realise that as long as I improve slightly, that's a step in the right direction. I wonder who said that quote jess hmmmm. That's actually rly smart. I'm so baffled

    1. Hahaha thanks Dandan! It's our fave teacher who told it to me ;) <3

  2. I am definitely on the same page with you. It's very important to do what you love in life and try to take some time to introspect and realize that the most important things in life are free. You don't take anything with you in the grave. Great post and nice job!


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