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Friday, 31 January 2014

January Roundup: Make The Most Of 2014

When I think of 2014 as a whole I get a little nervous and excited. I haven't quite decided if it's the 'good' kind of anxiousness yet, but all I know is, when I think about the whole year to come my heart starts to beat a little faster. Oooh just writing that has made my heart do a little jump and has just made me breathe out, "oh gosshhh".

Now I'm no psychiatrist or doctor or counsellor, but I suspect the reason why I feel this way is because I'm thinking of 2014 as one big chunk and some kind of ginormous task that's bigger than the UK. Which naturally, makes me want to crawl into a corner and sing to myself and hibernate for at least another 3 months.  The real reason why people can't seem to move towards their goals is because they focus on their task as this unfamiliar, colossal goal and it puts them in the terrified-let's-just-avoid-all-problems-and-not-do-anything mind set.

So how do you solve this? Easy. Work in small steps. Focus on one section per day and avoid just doing it all in one chunk. You can't become selfless or a genius in one day, but you can take baby steps every day to help you get there. Also, everything is a lot less daunting and more achievable in smaller bits. I get that we can't all have the time or the energy to work on ourselves everyday, but think about how many days you will waste in one month by not moving forward and waiting until the weekend to even start. Again, I'm not saying that tomorrow you have to have achieved all your goals, but to get to that  A* or to be 5 pounds lighter, things need to be taken in smaller steps.

So this is what I want you to do with the goals you made: find that piece of paper that's a) either taped up to your door and hanging proudly or b) crumpled up and pretty dirty in places, and break up your goals into smaller chunks that you can do daily.  To explain this a little further, let's use my own goals as an example. For each one, I will find something I can do for a few minutes each day in order to move forward with them, which I want you to interpret to fit your own goals. A lot of these things that you'll see below I either already do and some I'm planning to start soon.
(To see a full list of my resolutions and reasons behind them + further details on them: click here )

  • Take My Blog Places. - Each day, I'll jot down any ideas that spring to mind and plan out future blog posts as well as images I might use. It doesn't take very long, a few seconds at a time really. If I see something nice or I think of a good idea, I'll write it down in order to move forward. And on the weekends, when I have a bit more freedom, I'll do more research by reading other people's blogs and promoting my page.

    (Side note: Eccentric Light Bulbs now has a Facebook page! Be sure to "like" it and share it if you want - it would mean a lot to me :))

  • Exercise When I Can. - Each night, I'll exercise for the length of ONE song. Nothing too strenuous; some push-ups and crunches work well for me. In addition to this, you can also do some exercises throughout the day like while cleaning your face, while you're in the shower etc. For me, I like doing calf raises while I'm brushing my teeth and stretching while I wash my face. (Although I do look really weird while I'm doing it.)

  • Take Better Care Of My Body. - Everyday, when I first wake up, I'll take a long drink of water and at the end of the day before I turn out the light, I'll take another. (Obviously I'll still drink water throughout the day as well.) I'm also going to try and add in a few more minutes of sleep by developing a faster morning routine and staying more organised so I can get all the beauty sleep I need. At the moment, I'm trying to incorporate more vegetables into my diet and something as simple as taking one extra carrot at dinner time can really help quicken the process.

  • Take More Risks. - For me, I'm going to do one thing a day that scares me (within reason). Whether it's talking to a classmate that I don't know very well or putting up my hand even if I'm unsure if I have the right answer (that really terrifies me), I'll do it and take a risk. Because you never know if you're right unless you try.

(Side note: This is one of my favourite HIMYM quotes) 

  • Get More Organised. - Each morning and each night, I'm going to go through the lists of things that I need to do and get my head focused on the tasks at hand. I've also been keeping a little list book which really helps me prioritize my assignments better.

  • Promise Myself to Try. - This one is a little difficult to do, but everyday, I will try to remind myself of who I am/want to be and where I want to end up. I know that every journey starts with the decision to try so by constantly reminding myself of what I could be and have, hopefully I'll be able to try each day. (For any motivation tips: click here or here )
  • Not Let Things Get Me Down So Easily/Be Stronger. - Every time something goes right or something makes me happy, I'm going to write it down no matter how small it is. Like today, for example, one of my favourite songs came on the radio, my teacher gave me a really nice compliment and I managed to sort out the theme of my art project. And when I get sad, I'll go back to my list and read through it so I can remember my happiness and hopefully catch some of that joy whilst reading it.

  • Live and Take Charge. - Each day you will be faced with daily struggles of conformity whether you realise it or not. Even something like choosing what you want for lunch can be affected by what other people say. So to really live and take charge, I will try and remind myself each day that if I want to do it, I should just do it. If I want to bring a pickle sandwich to school while everyone else eats an egg & cress one, I will. This one probably will take the longest time to achieve, but the way to get there is in small daily steps.

  • Get 10 A*s in my GCSEs - This one isn't actually in my resolutions, but I thought I would add this for anyone who does have something like this for their resolutions and I think it is important to still focus on your exams. (Also this might seem a bit ambitious, but it's important to aim high and stretch yourself to your full potential. Don't set your goals low just because you think you can't do it.) So, instead of waiting for the GCSE time to roll around to start revising, I'm going to start now. So each day I'll take 5 minutes to learn some German vocab, 2 minutes to read through my English notes, 2 minutes to draw up that Chemistry diagram etc. Those three things took less than 10 minutes and already I would have become one step closer to getting that A*.

Even if you haven't been completely successful in moving towards your goals this January, that's okay. February is a new month and a new start. And if you fail again, tomorrow is another new start. The point is that it's okay if you don't succeed at first. What's that saying? If at first you don't succeed, try and try again. Get back up again and believe that you can get to where you need to be. Because at the end of the day, the only person you should never give up on, is yourself.

And even better, the end of January (the 31st) is actually Chinese New Year! So even if you aren't Chinese, take this as a new start to your year.

So that concludes January 2014 - hope you enjoyed this month with me (even if I was absent from it for a little while. But on the bright side, my mocks went really well!)

Hopefully, I'll see you all again in February which is going to be a very exciting month I think. I've already got tons and tons of posts planned and February is one of my favourite months of the year, so stay tuned! Take Chinese New Year or the beginning of February as your new start to the year and make the most of 2014. We'll get there together. You deserve it.

Wednesday, 22 January 2014

Get Motivated: Study Tips & Tricks

Hoorah! I'm back! Seems a long time - almost a month actually! Apologies in advance if this post won't be quite up to my normal standard. I'm a bit out of touch firstly with people in general as my mind has been focused on work and physics equations, English quotes, verb tenses etc, etc...and secondly, I haven't actually typed anything apart from my username and passwords in the two weeks I've been gone. Oops.

But I've missed you blog, oh wonderful glorious blog. And studying wasn't exactly a walk in the park. I mean we all know how it is; you've got tons of work to do and you just can't get up and do any of it. You just sit at your desk reading the same thing over and over again. Before you know it, it's 1 am and you still haven't got anything inside that gloop that you call a brain. Sure the adrenaline could fuel you until you have to actually leave the house for school. But you did have those 5 days earlier where you did nothing but sit in front of the TV, laptop on your stomach to keep you warm, unwashed face, greasy hair and the faint smell of a takeaway lingering in the air. Sound familiar?

Although I am pretty awesome, (If I do say so myself) I can't turn back time to 5 days ago when you had time to actually study. But what I can do is offer you some kind of help, advice and dandy (?) little tips and tricks to you and the rest of the internet. :)
1. Spend Time With Positive People - I've stressed the importance of spending time with positive people before, but this is especially important around exam time. Don't have a 'Negative Nancy' whinging about how she hasn't studied and how she's going to do so badly and how the teacher didn't teach her anything in the first place. Instead replace 'Negative Nancy' with a 'Positive Polly' (not sure if I like this name or not, but just roll with it) - someone who will cheer you on and reassure you of the fact that you'll do great because you worked hard and you're awesome.
2. Avoid ALL Drama - I'm sure you all have those friends that no matter what, drama just seems to circulate them wherever they go. If you're someone like me who gets distracted easily, it's best to avoid drama. I'm not saying ditch your friend, but if any of this craziness comes up, calmly say, "I'm sorry you have this issue (again *eye-roll*) but I would suggest you talk about this with someone else as I would like to concentrate on this work at hand. After I have finished, I would be happy to talk about your problem(s)." Any exams I did before, would have gone a lot smoother if I had avoided drama.

3. Imagine The Future - I'm all for living in the present and working towards your goals, but sometimes thinking about the future can help a lot. Think how this part is just a step towards your goal. The future seems like such a long way away, so think about whatever job you have as being something that you'll get next week or next month and how the test is just something you have to pass to get to this goal of yours.
4. You will be the future version of yourself - Slightly similar to the tip above, but remember that   in 24 hours you will be the future version of you and you will have done the exam. I don't know why, but thinking about that seems to motivate myself and make me think, "I want to be the future version of myself who has finished the exam and knows that it went well."
(Side note: This is actually how I dance. Not kidding.)
5. Flashcards and Headphones - This one might not be for everyone but I have found flashcards so, so useful. I'd never actually tried them out until a few weeks ago but when I finally did everything just seemed so much clearer. They're perfect for revising in a car, on a bus and right before the test. It also helps summarise the main points that you really need to pay attention to.
Headphones/Earphones might not be for everyone, but they are really good if you have to study in a crowded place, to just block all the annoying chattering out. Again, this isn't for everyone, but it is sometimes useful in noisy areas.
6. Vlog - This is by far one of my weirdest tips but from my obsession with Youtube, I think it's clear why I say this. Okay I don't mean actually record yourself with a camera (unless you want to) but just pretend like you're in a vlog. I highly, highly recommend this as a good way to getting stuff done. Also it's really fun pretending you're a Youtuber and just saying, "Okay guys, well I'm going to work now and I'll check in with you in a little bit after I've finished!"
7. Make a Rewards List - For some reason when it comes to exams, I seem to want to do absolutely everything NOT related to them. Something just takes a hold of me and whispers, "Go on, watch New Girl now."  But I'm saying now: save it. Make a list of every kind of non-academic thing you want to do and save it until your work is done. 1) It builds suspense until you actually do it 2) It makes it so much more worth it when you have actually done your work 3) You can then have movie marathons/go shopping/whatever you want to do, without thinking about the piles of crap you have to get done.
8. Get Organised - Tidy your room, buy revision guides, make lists, sharpen your pencils, clean your desk, do whatever you need to do to get organised.
9. Do What Works For You - I have a few friends that all have different revision schedules; some do hour long study sessions of a certain subject and plan their day to the hour of everything they do while others just go with the flow. And I have tried scheduling before, but I hated it. It just doesn't work for me. So if you need to create a schedule, create one that will work for you, whether that is planning everything on the hour to the hour or just saying to yourself "I need to get X, Y and Z done by the end of the day."
10. Different Learners - Unfortunately there's no easy way to determine what kind of learner you are but people have different tactics to learning things. You can take a few tests on the internet, but ultimately the only way to find out the best way for you to learn is to experiment. A lot of people learn by writing things out again and again, but for me I don't find that works at all in certain subjects like Physics. However, I do write things out again and again when it comes to learning my German and French Orals. So experiment and see what works for you.
11. Time VS Learning - Remember that it's not about how long you study for, but about how well you study. If you're the kind of person who studies for days and days - great! Snaps for your motivation and hard work! But if you can't do that, don't force yourself to study for that long just because someone else is doing it. Because if you only stare at that book for all those hours - how much would you really have taken in?
12. You Deserve It - Think about all the people who never understood why you went to the library to study or didn't understand that you needed to work on your Geography or believed that you couldn't do well or gave you dirty looks for spending your lunchtime with your French homework rather than them or called you a nerd or a dork or a neek. Think about how much that hurt you. And channel those emotions into your drive to do well and prove that you can and you will do well. You don't have to prove anything to anyone, but make it clear and let them all know: you were wrong about me.  
So I hope that helped you if you have any exams coming up or that just entertained you for 5 minutes. I really hope you'll all be able to pull out one or two tips from this post so that you can turn this:
into this:

(Another actual representation of my dancing abilities)
Side note: I'm a little bit obsessed with New Girl/GIFs
♥ Jess ♥

Monday, 6 January 2014

Reflecting on 2013

Hello again my lovely light bulbs :) Hoping all of you are feeling fresh, motivated and excited to tackle the rest of the year. Just wanted to let you all know that I might be absent from this blog until the end of January. Might, being the key word here. And I know that sounds like forever, but I promise it won't be!

Why are you leaving? I hear you ask. Simple answer: school. More importantly, exams. This year is quite an important year for me, although quite is a bit of an understatement, so it's really important I focus on my work. The way to focus for me personally, is to limit my distractions and concentrate only my work. So my blog will be on a bit of a hiatus for January. But of course, I will have tons and tons of new posts lined up afterwards!

While I'm away though, feel free to have a wander round, comment, like, share, tell your friends, subscribe - anything! (All blog posts can be found on the right side of the screen. And just below that, where it says followers and there's a blue button that says "Join this site", if you have a Google account, feel free to subscribe!)

Round-up of 2013:

The past year was pretty busy. I started this blog, I made it though school, I made it past bad friends and bad relationships and I made new friends (who I am very, very grateful for.) Starting this blog was one of the most rewarding things I have ever done. It built my confidence, let me become myself again and most importantly, allowed me to inspire and help other people. I am very grateful to my blog and the people who read it.
I did a lot in the last year and the first part of it wasn't great but as time progressed, I changed, I became a stronger person and I'm proud of my journey in 2013.

Phew. That's enough rambling for now.

I thought I would round up some of my favourite posts. (If any of you are interested for any reasons.) Talk to you all soon and wish me luck on my work!

- Technically not a post of 2013, but still felt like this should be one to look at. (oops, advertising myself there...)

So here's to making 2014 the best year yet! Stay beautiful, stay true to you and be happy. And remember:

♥ Jess ♥

Saturday, 4 January 2014

Things to Keep in Mind

Just a few things to focus on today, to remind yourself of tomorrow, to revisit in the future and to guide you always.



♥ Jess ♥

Friday, 3 January 2014

Songs to Keep You Motivated

Hello all you lovely little light bulbs reading this today! Hope you're all well and you're enjoying the new year. So to continue the 7 days of motivation, I've decided to include some songs that really help me get motivated when I'm in a bit of a rut. (Someone out there is probably going, whaaatt??Again, aww not another song list, Jess..") You don't have to like every song, but maybe you'll be able to find one or two that help you in your quest for motivation.

 1. Suddenly I See - KT Tunstall
Who else remembers this from the Devil Wears Prada? Every time I hear this I just think of that beginning scene where all the girls are doing their hair, makeup and all that jazz. It's just brilliant and a great kick-starter to your day. You'll begin to see a recurring theme with this list of the fact that they're mostly featured in montage scenes. (After all, who doesn't love a good montage scene?)   
2. Run The World (Girls) - Beyoncé
Ah, gotta have a bit of Queen B. I mean there's a reason she's nicknamed "Queen B" She's the personification of girl power. Legit. (don't know if anyone still uses that word.) And look at that thumbnail. Queen B and a lion. Can you say fierce? Also am I the only one who wants to be a dancer in the music video? No? Just me?
3. Stronger - Britney Spears
I'm a huge, huge fan of early Britney. Like a really big fan. She was brilliant. And she's great now - but there was something so, so special about her in the early days. The song, besides being ridiculously catchy, does have an amazing message. For me, it just reminds me that today is another day and that I'm stronger than I was yesterday.
4. Good Day - The Click Five
Such a feel good song and used in the montage scene of Sydney White ( great film to watch during Amanda Bynes' glory days) The title says it all really.
5. Perfect Day - Joanna Pacitti
*singing* Per-fect da-ay, nothing's standing in my way....
You all might recognise this from the opening scenes of Legally Blonde. It's actually so perfect to kick start your day - it gives you a really optimistic message and so much motivation.
(I would include the actual video, but this montage of the film that someone made is too cute not to put in here.)
6. Stand Up - Melee
To me, this song is all about standing up for yourself and being who you are. It's great for this time of year because it reminds you to be you and not let any one else rule your life. In other words, take charge of your life and not let anyone else do that for you. (Which you all might remember is one of my resolutions.)
7. Stronger (What Doesn't Kill You) - Kelly Clarkson
I'm a massive, massive fan of Kelly. Her and Britney were my favourite idols growing up. First of all, her vocals are insane and she's gorgeous. Secondly, her songs and lyrics are always amazing. Her album, Breakaway, is one of my favourites and I'm pretty sure I listened to it on a loop for months on end.
8. Watch Me Shine - Joanna Pacitti
I've talked about this song before in this post and I absolutely love it. You might all recognise it from Legally Blonde and this has got to be my favourite montage scene of all time. Every time I hear this song I just think of myself becoming Elle Woods and rising above everyone else's negativity. The music in Legally Blonde is fab. (I've included the montage scene instead of a lyric video because in my opinion, it's 1000 times better.)
9. I Lived - One Republic
I genuinely think this song needs to be number one and played all over the world. It's so, so beautiful. It's all about taking on life, taking on the world and how at the end of your life or day you can finally say, "I lived."
I love this song so much, I don't think I can fully comprehend or actually produce words to show my love for it.
10. You Get What You Give - New Radicals
I did a post for blogmas ((Blogmas: Day 11) You Get What You Give - which btw is one of my favourite posts I've ever written. I'm really proud of it.) and at the end of my really crap day, which you'll read about in the post, this song came on the radio. Now I know a lot of people don't believe in fate and signs and stuff like that, but for me it was a sign to just keep going and it reminded me that you only get what you give and to keep trying. I treated this as my anthem after that and I think this, along with some of the other songs in this list, are going to be my anthems for 2014. If you're going to put any 2 songs on your playlist, put I Lived and this one. I don't understand how anyone could not like it.
I hope you're feeling a little more motivated and that you can conquer the world now after a sing-a-long to some of these. That's all for today, folks! And remember: believe in yourself and promise yourself to try. Thanks for reading!
♥ Jess ♥

Thursday, 2 January 2014

January 2nd: Stop Hitting The Snooze

Hi all! Hope you all had a good first day of 2014 and you stuck to your resolutions (or attempted to). I know lots of people (including me) who are trying to eat a bit healthier and it's really nice when you find someone working along side you to achieve the same goals.

One thing I didn't mention in my resolutions is to stop hitting the snooze. Now I don't mean this as in just snooze button when your alarm goes off, I mean in general activities in life. You're probably a bit confused now. Well, have no fear, all shall be made clear by the end of this post!

We all have those mornings where you're so exhausted no matter how many times your alarm goes off you just can't get out of bed. You keep hitting the snooze button over and over again. It rings and you hit the snooze. And another time and you hit the snooze. Ring, snooze. Ring, snooze. The cycle repeats itself, until you eventually realise, "Shit. I have got 5 minutes to get ready. Oh bloody hell." Cue mad rushing, un-brushed hair and teeth, a makeup less face and a dirty shirt hung haphazardly on one shoulder. And because you had only 5 minutes to get ready, naturally you forgot to bring in some pieces of work and you got into a lot of trouble from your teachers/boss. Now why did that happen? Because you hit the snooze so much.

By hitting the snooze, you decreased the amount of time to do work (in this case, getting ready) thus resulting in negative consequences (you were late/you looked awful/you forgot your work/you got into trouble). And the same can be applied to doing homework or general chores. If you spend your nights going, "Oh I can watch 17 episodes of How I Met Your Mother now, I'll just do my work later," or "I'll just sit here on the floor not really doing anything because I don't feel like doing my work now," you will end up with bad results. You might get away with it once or twice, but in the long run, if it becomes a habit, you'll end up not achieving anything you set out to achieve and not receiving the results that you originally deserved. And as it is the start of the year, we should probably all try to avoid bad habits.

So I'm saying now: stop hitting the snooze on everything. When you hear that alarm, get up. When you drop that piece of paper, pick it up. When you don't feel like doing your work, do it now.If you don't want to do it now, you're not going to want to do it later so you may as well get it over with.

The reason why I didn't put it in my resolutions is because although it is something I want to improve on, I think it's more important to look at it as a general life guideline to remember.

Well there you have it! Tomorrow, when your alarm goes off in the morning, I want you to try and not hit the snooze. Sit up, breathe deeply, count to 10, rub your face and get up slowly. I promise it will be the best thing you can do in the morning.

"The best way to make your dreams happen is to wake up."
♥ Jess ♥

Wednesday, 1 January 2014

January 1st: New Year's Resolutions

Ah New Year's Resolutions. The resolutions of the new year. A chance for a fresh start and for all your reflective-ness (let's assume that's a word) to begin. You've heard it a thousand time before. Be it from your great-aunt, your mum, your dad, your dog, your best friend, that really hot guy in the movie or even that really drunk boat host of the New Year's Party - " The New Year is a time to reflect on the past. To be thankful for all the memories, to put the past behind you and to look forward to the start of a fresh new year." And as much as I hate to agree with the drunk boat host guy, it's definitely true.

Remember all the ups and downs you've been on this year and remind yourself of where you are now and how far you've come. Remember when you were in that situation and you thought it was going on forever? Keep in mind that now, you're fine and you made it though. And that's the important part. You survived 2013. You go Glen Coco.

People always say *puts on accent* "A new year means a new me." Which frankly my brother and I aren't too keen on. You don't have to transform and become a new you. (Unless you want to which is up to you, of course.) Instead of trying to completely change yourself, in 2014, be you, but just be a better version of you. I mean that's what we all want to achieve right? A better version of ourselves. Not someone new or perfect, just the best version of you that you can possibly be.

Alors, I've decided to share my New Year's resolutions with you all today. Not only to give you a little insight into what I'm trying to improve myself in, you nosy little creatures (I mean that with love by the way), but to help you when writing yours and maybe even to offer you a little guidance on our journey together. After all, 87% of people work better when they have someone working along side them towards the same goal. (statistic was made up.) So here we go!

  • Take My Blog Places. Now you can apply this to whatever activity you guys like to do, but for me I want to take my blog somewhere. I'd like to gain more followers (let's say at least 5) before the end of 2014. In 2014, I hope to make my blog better, to post not only better ideas but these ideas having been written to a higher standard. I just want to keep making progress in my blog and see where it takes me.
  • Exercise When I Can. One of the things I've been saying to myself throughout all of 2013 was "I'm going to get in shape" for a multitude of reasons and for a while I did. But it didn't last very long so I'm going to just try and keep myself going. Instead of saying "Target one: get a flat stomach," which I know is something that won't motivate me at all, I'm going to say, "Exercise when I can." It puts less pressure on the main outcome and at the same time motivates me in small little steps.
  • Take Better Care Of My Body. Now whether that would be sleeping earlier/more, eating healthier foods, drinking more water, whatever it is, I want to start taking care of myself. It's always difficult sleeping early when there's school work to be done, but even something small like making sure you get some fresh air everyday can make a huge impact on your health. I think I'm blessed to have a working body so I should treasure and take care of what I've been given.


  • Take More Risks. Having just said to take better care of my body, I don't mean jumping off cliffs and becoming an adrenaline junkie. (Although you can put that on your list if you want to.) I mean in class or in your writing or in your work, take a risk. If you get that gut instinct that maybe what you're thinking is right, just say it. I can't tell you the amount of times I've thought of a right answer and because I was too afraid of getting it wrong, I never said it. But there was a point in 2013 where I voiced my opinion on a topic amongst my classmates, and one of my friends who had the same view as me said, "I really admire you for saying that because I agree with you." And that has to be one of my fondest memories from 2013. So this year, I'm going to believe in myself and have confidence in my opinions.
  • Get More Organised. This is an extremely difficult one for me as I am not brilliant at being organised. In addition with the next resolution, I am going to attempt simple things like doing my homework the day I get it. Nothing crazy that I know I'll never do like do my homework the minute I get home, but something achievable. I've just started making daily to-do lists and I really encourage it if any of you are trying to be more organised for 2014.

(Images from BeyondBeautyStar)

  • Promise Myself to Try. Any of you reading this, I want this to be one thing that you put down on your resolutions list. Promise yourself that you're going to try. We can all be our own toughest critic, I know I definitely am, and so it's important that we keep ourselves in check with what we want to achieve. Doesn't matter what you're going to do, just promise yourself you will at least try. You know yourself better than anyone and you know what you're capable of, so at least believe in yourself and try.
  • Not Let Things Get Me Down So Easily/Be Stronger. Because I pretty much do everything with my heart on my sleeve, it's very difficult and frustrating when things go wrong or I don't understand something the first time. But I'm going to try and not let myself be so sad so easily. I think a part of my being frustrated so easily is due to the lack of care I've been giving to my health so that is partly to blame. But the other half is most likely due to that side of me that makes me want to get everything right. I just need to remember that even if you want to get 95% of what you learn right, it still takes time to understand it all. And even if I do get sad and frustrated again, in 2014 I'm going to continue to teach myself to get back up better, to learn from my mistakes and be stronger than before.   

  • Live and Take Charge. Previously for a long period of time, I was pretty miserable and I let other people inadvertently control what I felt and how I looked at myself by how they treated me. And I've realised that that's not a healthy way to live and not how anyone should have to live. That area of my life felt like I was just existing and not really living. I let other people control my own outlook on life and it made me a very sad person and I hated being that way. So in 2014, I've vowed to take control of my own life and to live and do the things that I love and that I actually want to do.
Perhaps the one other thing to take away today is just to give 2014 a real kick. I want each and every one of you to be the best you can be, so much that 2014 isn't going to know what hit it.

2014 is your year. What will you achieve?
♥ Jess ♥